What should an adult victim of child sex abuse do to help with guilt feelings?
Person responsible never confronted. Family secret and one responsible is treated with respect. After 35 years, I wish I could tell the world so he could suffer. He has been protected for over 40 years. Everywhere you turn today, you hear of persons reporting this, like Teri Hatcher. When I listen to their stories, it brings up the past. What good would it do now and I would be the Bad Person for exposing the secret.
But, he is an older sibling, with wife, kids, grandkids and other siblings. He is in middle 60′s now as well as myself. Now that our parents are long gone, they would not be hurt by the truth. All I want is for him to admit his wrongdoings to me at some point in time. I have no contact with him at all. Family broke up after last parent passed on. It just irks me that he is thought of as a wonderful person, even by my own grown up child. In everyone’s eyes, he knows all, and can do no wrong. An arrogant, sneaky, big mouth sly S.O.B, who my mother adored as her first born. I just could never say anything, as she would never would have believed me. The family thinks "I" am the bad one because of settlements when my mom died. When do I get my justice? I could NEVER turn him into authorities, as I never thought of this as something like that. It was just a family secret with me. So, maybe I should just finally let go. I had, but situations resurface it with anger again!
Filed under: Guilt Feelings
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