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Blushing? Shyness? Social anxiety disorder? (If you don't like reading this is not for you.)?

Sunday, April 29th, 2012 at 7:03 pm  
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So I grew up fairly shy. I was always quite and kept to myself. Through my years I gained a little confidence and even opened up a little. Lately though my shyness is hindering my life. Its not so much that I’m shy its more of the blushing thing. I blush even if someone is just saying "Hi" to me! I don’t know why I do, but here is a typical situation for me:
Person: Hi how are you?
Me: Uh good. (I’m too embarrassed to even ask them how they are)
Or when I worked for a store:
Customer: Where do you keep (item)?
Me: Uh I think its in aisle…(I forget just because someone approached me)
Here is another scenario:
I play instruments and sing. The second someone is around, though, I mess up a song that I know by heart, or I sing weird or out of pitch just because someone is around me (and for some reason I guess I’m even too embarrassed to hum a simple tune)
I have no idea why! My parents and all my sibling are immensely outgoing, one even thrives off public speaking, but me, I can barely walk in a room full of a few people without blushing, sweating, shaking or fidgeting. I know its physiological but I can’t seem to change my brain’s way of functioning.

I try every trick in the book from learning to relax to breathing exercises. I even forget about all the people in the room and tell myself that there not judging me but it doesn’t work. I haven’t had a conversation on the phone in years and when I do its always hard for me to talk and I usually end the conversation fast. I have been to the point of suicide because I feel so bad.

My family doesn’t understand and constantly puts me down for not being socially graceful. I quite my job and have a job that allows me to work in the shadows so to speak, just because I can’t handle public situation.

I feel worthless because I can’t be myself, and I know I could have a job, friends, and happiness if only I could shake this, whatever it is. This is also the most ironic part, I want to be either an actor or musician. I dream and yearn to break free and have my time in the spotlight! I need help from this "disease."

But most of all I can’t understand why this is happening, I don’t understand why I’m cursed, and most of all I want to be normal. So please help me, and sorry for the unusually large novel of a question.

Should I be on meds?!

P.S. I don’t run away from my problems I actually try and change my current state but everytime I do I revert back to my old self and have to leave the situation before I go insane. And yes I have tried hypnosis but no attainment. Also I’m nineteen and my life is just starting.


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The Impact of Hazardous and Irresponsible Drinking on Relationships and the Inspiration Needed to Get Treatment and Discover More Self Esteem, Happiness, and a More Positive Attitude

Sunday, May 23rd, 2010 at 5:44 am  
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One of the alcohol abuse facts that somehow, someway escapes quite a few people’s awareness is that unhealthy and abusive drinking normally adversely affects relationships. Stated more explicitly, to a fairly great extent, abusive and careless drinking is to relationships what substance abuse is to a person’s health or what faulty brakes are to the safety of the driver of a vehicle. In all of these cases, the result is frequently a terrible misfortune.

When the interrelationship between hazardous and irresponsible drinking and relationships is researched a little more closely, however, there are some solid reasons why irresponsible and careless drinking and relationships don’t go together in a beneficial or healthy fashion.

Heavy and Excessive Drinking Lessens an Individual’s Inhibitions

First, irresponsible and abusive drinking decreases an individual’s inhibitions. This routinely means that a person who has been drinking has less control over what he or she does and says. The result is that people in a relationship who have been drinking are much more likely to engage in inappropriate and cross verbal abuse and/or violent physical behavior that might not have taken place if neither individual was drinking.

Irresponsible and Heavy Drinking Adversely Influences a Person’s Problem Solving, Decision-Making, and Reasoning Skills and Abilities

Second, excessive and careless drinking adversely affects a person’s problem solving, decision-making, and reasoning skills. Indeed, if an individual employs jumbled decision-making, reasoning, and problem solving skills, this typically adversely affects the options someone makes as well as his or her behavior. Such a condition, it’s proclaimed, is calamity waiting to happen when relationships are concerned due to the sheer number of decisions and troubles that need to be addressed on a recurring basis.

Irresponsible and Abusive Drinking Commonly Influences the Drinker’s Finances in a Detrimental Way

Third, excessive and abusive drinking usually influences the drinker’s finances in an extremely detrimental way. At the end of the day, whether a person buys his or her alcohol at a saloon, restaurant, liquor store, sports event, or drinks at home, unhealthy drinking is not cheap. And if cash is spent on drinking rather than on food, the mortgage, utilities, car or truck payments, the rent, credit card bills, and so on, fundamental complications in a relationship are probably right around the corner.

Excessive Drinking Generally Manifests Itself at an Individual’s Place of Employment

Fourth, hazardous and irresponsible drinking frequently manifests itself at a person’s place of employment. To the extent that this occurs, one’s ability to make a living is severely placed in a perilous situation and this, in turn, negatively affects one’s relationships.

Abusive and Heavy Drinking Frequently Results in Difficulties With the Law

Finally, hazardous drinking often leads to problems with the law. Undeniably one or more DWIs, for instance, cannot do anything but adversely affect a relationship from an emotional and from a financial viewpoint.

You Need Inspiration and Motivation to Get Alcohol Rehab So You Can Stop Your Heavy and Irresponsible Drinking And Find More Self Esteem, Happiness, and a More Positive Attitude

So what is the message to be taken away from this discussion? First, if you want to have solid, loving relationships in your life, steer clear from hazardous and irresponsible drinking. Second, if you are a drinker and you are in a relationship, if you want to keep this relationship or perhaps make it stronger, then make sure you always drink responsibly or not at all. And third, if you have alcohol problems that are negatively affecting your relationship, please seek more alcohol information and consider getting alcohol counseling.

Conclusion

In conclusion, it can be determined that abusive and careless drinking adversely impacts a person’s relationships mainly because it lowers an individual’s inhibitions and leads to insensitive and malicious interchanges and/or cruel behavior.

It can also be determined that excessive and irresponsible drinking negatively influences a person’s decision-making, reasoning, and problem solving skills and abilities, consequently leading to badly chosen options and actions.

In a very related way, excessive and unhealthy drinking typically negatively influences the drinker’s finances, consequently affecting the money management abilities of the individuals who are involved in the relationship. Not only this but excessive and unhealthy drinking frequently negatively affects a relationship mainly because of alcohol-related employment troubles.

And finally, unhealthy and irresponsible drinking normally results in alcohol related troubles with the law such as DWIs, jail time, and penalties and fines. Apparently, these legal problems adversely affect most cherished relationships.


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Develop A Belief System Works For You

Sunday, May 16th, 2010 at 1:24 am  
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It is interesting to note that most of society is free.  There is a percentage of the populous that is incarcerated for crimes against society.  So too, are there people who live in political cultures that do not value the freedom of its’ people.  Nevertheless, the majority of the people in the world live in relative freedom.They can choose whom they marry, what they do for a living, and where they live.Most societies allow their people to move around freely without restraint.As long as an individual is obeying the laws, that person has wide latitude in conduct.The freedoms offered by governments are physical freedoms that all its’ law abiding members enjoy.  However, many operate in a rison like atmosphere regardless of what they are given.  This prison does not exist on the material plane.  Rather, it is a creation of the mind.  It is manufactured from an individual’s belief system.  These beliefs become people’s jailers.Most will tell you that they can think for themselves.To suggest that they are incapable of creating their own ideas is met with an overwhelming attitude to the contrary. 

All their success, experiences, and intelligence give a sense of independence.They mistakenly believe that their belief systems is of their own making.  Unfortunately for them, it is not.A fundamental concept to creating the life that you desire is to create a belief system that works for you.  Contrary to what most think, our beliefs systems are shaped by the influences around us.  Teachers, parents, friends, co-workers, and institutions all have input into the beliefs that we live by.Have you ever noticed how children’s ideas often reflect those of their parents?Second, she must also be able to carry out all of the necessary tasks, often in the attorney’s absence.  Even though a paralegal is working for an attorney, there are many duties that she must fulfill without his actual presence. This is so common that political organizations poll school children during Presidential elections because they accurately reflect the sentiment of the adults.

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The Impact of Hazardous and Irresponsible Drinking on Relationships and the Inspiration Needed to Get Treatment and Discover More Self Esteem and Happiness

Friday, May 14th, 2010 at 11:43 pm  
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One of the alcohol abuse facts that somehow, someway escapes quite a few people’s awareness is that unhealthy and abusive drinking normally adversely affects relationships. Stated more explicitly, to a fairly great extent, abusive and careless drinking is to relationships what substance abuse is to a person’s health or what faulty brakes are to the safety of the driver of a vehicle. In all of these cases, the result is frequently a terrible misfortune.

When the interrelationship between hazardous and irresponsible drinking and relationships is researched a little more closely, however, there are some solid reasons why irresponsible and careless drinking and relationships don’t go together in a beneficial or healthy fashion.

Heavy and Excessive Drinking Lessens an Individual’s Inhibitions

First, irresponsible and abusive drinking decreases an individual’s inhibitions. This routinely means that a person who has been drinking has less control over what he or she does and says. The result is that people in a relationship who have been drinking are much more likely to engage in inappropriate and cross verbal abuse and/or violent physical behavior that might not have taken place if neither individual was drinking.

Irresponsible and Heavy Drinking Adversely Influences a Person’s Problem Solving, Decision-Making, and Reasoning Skills and Abilities

Second, excessive and careless drinking adversely affects a person’s problem solving, decision-making, and reasoning skills. Indeed, if an individual employs jumbled decision-making, reasoning, and problem solving skills, this typically adversely affects the options someone makes as well as his or her behavior. Such a condition, it’s proclaimed, is calamity waiting to happen when relationships are concerned due to the sheer number of decisions and troubles that need to be addressed on a recurring basis.

Irresponsible and Abusive Drinking Commonly Influences the Drinker’s Finances in a Detrimental Way

Third, excessive and abusive drinking usually influences the drinker’s finances in an extremely detrimental way. At the end of the day, whether a person buys his or her alcohol at a saloon, restaurant, liquor store, sports event, or drinks at home, unhealthy drinking is not cheap. And if cash is spent on drinking rather than on food, the mortgage, utilities, car or truck payments, the rent, credit card bills, and so on, fundamental complications in a relationship are probably right around the corner.

Excessive Drinking Generally Manifests Itself at an Individual’s Place of Employment

Fourth, hazardous and irresponsible drinking frequently manifests itself at a person’s place of employment. To the extent that this occurs, one’s ability to make a living is severely placed in a perilous situation and this, in turn, negatively affects one’s relationships.

Abusive and Heavy Drinking Frequently Results in Difficulties With the Law

Finally, hazardous drinking often leads to problems with the law. Undeniably one or more DWIs, for instance, cannot do anything but adversely affect a relationship from an emotional and from a financial viewpoint.

You Need Inspiration and Motivation to Get Alcohol Rehab So You Can Stop Your Heavy and Irresponsible Drinking And Find More Self Esteem and Happiness

So what is the message to be taken away from this discussion? First, if you want to have solid, loving relationships in your life, steer clear from hazardous and irresponsible drinking. Second, if you are a drinker and you are in a relationship, if you want to keep this relationship or perhaps make it stronger, then make sure you always drink responsibly or not at all. And third, if you have alcohol problems that are negatively affecting your relationship, please seek more alcohol information and consider getting alcohol counseling.

Conclusion

In conclusion, it can be determined that abusive and careless drinking adversely impacts a person’s relationships mainly because it lowers an individual’s inhibitions and leads to insensitive and malicious interchanges and/or cruel behavior.

It can also be determined that excessive and irresponsible drinking negatively influences a person’s decision-making, reasoning, and problem solving skills and abilities, consequently leading to badly chosen options and actions.

In a very related way, excessive and unhealthy drinking typically negatively influences the drinker’s finances, consequently affecting the money management abilities of the individuals who are involved in the relationship. Not only this but excessive and unhealthy drinking frequently negatively affects a relationship mainly because of alcohol-related employment troubles.

And finally, unhealthy and irresponsible drinking normally results in alcohol related troubles with the law such as DWIs, jail time, and penalties and fines. Apparently, these legal problems adversely affect most cherished relationships.


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Can You Decide To Be Happy?

Wednesday, May 12th, 2010 at 4:33 am  
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As you lay beneath your king quilt, you might be sad. Another day is gone and you have not accomplished too much. There is always something blocking you from your achievements. Why can’t things run more smoothly? Then you might find happiness. There are many answers to that question. Here are a few to consider.

Think about what you need to be contented. You may desire a perfect relationship. It may be a beautiful new home on a hill. Maybe you wish for no major problems, anymore. Now, imagine that you have achieved those things. What will you do next? You may have a long celebration. However, what will you do with your life, after the party is over?

Allow your childhood holiday memories to return. Go back to your old bedroom. Maybe you are reclining in your full size loft bed. Your sibling is in the other bunk. You are discussing the holiday, that is on the horizon. Do you feel the excitement? Why is it so exciting? Perhaps it has something to do with anticipation.

The excitement from special events like Christmas can slowly build. The closer it gets, the more exciting it becomes. Then the day arrives. You enjoy it and the feeling that it brings. The next day, you feel empty. What is the reason for that? Do you mourn the event that has passed? maybe you mourn the lack of desire?

It may be how you feel about those things. Maybe feelings, and not events, are vital to happiness. If you go out into the world, you will see many smiling faces. There will be just as many poor as rich, with smiles on their faces. Two people can be in identical situations. One will be happy and the other will be miserable.

Perhaps you work at a desk all week. Maybe you use a Poulan chainsaw and trim trees for a living. You may be just as happy in a tree, as in an office. It matters very little. Inward conditions may be more important than you think.

What can you do to attain happiness? Maybe you can resolve to control your destiny. Do not depend on anyone else for your happiness. Make it your responsibility. This power will allow you control over your life.

Summation

Things you own, may not be part of your happiness equation. Your occupation may not matter, either. It may depend mostly upon your state of mind. That is good news. Your states of mind are totally within your control.


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Ways to Find Your Real Self Again

Friday, April 23rd, 2010 at 1:08 pm  
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On the surface it seems an odd idea that you could actually be anything other than who you really are.  But from the time we can talk, we’re being programmed to  it in?  We find ourselves conforming in order to please the people we love, and who love us.  But sometimes that means that you have to suppress what you know is the real person inside. And yet, your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you’ll ever have.  Without a healthy relationship with yourself, it’s practically impossible to have healthy relationships with anyone else.  If you’re ready to get re-acquainted with someone you haven’t seen in a while  yourself ?start with these 5 ideas to help you rediscover the real you. Quiet the noise in your head. You know those voices well, the ones that are constantly nagging you to pick up the dry cleaning, talk to the school teacher, juggle the bills, schedule the vet, keep the boss happy.  With all that noise going on, it will be impossible for you to hear anything above the din.  This MUST be the first step.  How do you do that? 

By setting up systems, simplifying, and establishing enough extras in your life to allow you to operate from a position of abundance, instead of lack. Practice thinking about yourself in healthy ways. In order to do that, you must first believe that you are valuable, and your Real Self has something to offer the world.  Since you talk to yourself more than everyone else in your life combined –that’s a lot of talk! up to YOU to establish the healthy communication in your thinking.  Consciously listen to how you talk to yourself; write down the unhealthy things you say; challenge them; and replace them with facts. Self-Talk: you never do anything right.  Challenge: of course I do things right.  I did (example) right.  I did (example) right.  This time, I just made a mistake.  I’ll learn from it and have better success next time.   Listen to your heart. Sounds easy enough, but by the time we’re adults, most of us have stopped listening to our hearts and go only with our heads. 

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Friday, April 2nd, 2010 at 5:57 pm  
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The key to happiness is both simple and complex. It is the sum total of more than 2,000 years of philosophy, psychology, speculation, and discussion about the meanings and sources of happiness. From Aristotle in 340 B.C. through to the modern thinkers, speakers, and writers of today, this key to happiness has hardly changed. It is the same for virtually all men and women in every country and all walks of life. The key to happiness is this: Dedicate yourself to the development of your natural talents and abilities by doing what you love to do, and doing it better and better in the service of a cause that is greater than yourself. This is a big statement and a big commitment. Being happy requires that you define your life in your own terms and then throw your whole heart into living your life to the fullest. In a way, happiness requires that you be perfectly selfish in order to develop yourself to a point where you can be unselfish for the rest of your life.

YOUR HAPPINESS MUST COME FIRST In Edmond Rostand's Play Cyrano de Bergerac, Cyrano is asked why he is so intensely individualistic and unconcerned with the opinions and judgments of others. He replies with these wonderful words:  I am what I am because early in life I decided that I would please at least myself in all things. Your happiness likewise depends upon your ability to please at least yourself in all things. However, most people are reluctant to use their own happiness as the standard by which to judge the events in their lives. This is primarily because we let others define or affect what brings us happiness. And we often believe it is more important to make other people happy than it is to make ourselves happy. This is nonsense. Human beings are happiness-driven organisms. Everything we do in life is oriented toward maintaining and increasing our level of happiness. We are psychologically constructed so that it is impossible for us to be any other way without making ourselves mentally and emotionally ill. The fact is that you can't give away to anyone else what you don't have for yourself. Just as you can't give money to the poor if you don't have any, you can't make someone else happy if you yourself are miserable.

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Wednesday, March 31st, 2010 at 10:21 pm  
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Welcome to the bridge of Manifest life. Don’ t let any situation take the control. You are the second master of the game, under the universe master law, what you think is what you get. Can that be possible? Yes it can be, you got to be in a manifesting state, your mind, your body is one, not two. The flow of energy that is rotating in the universe can break you if you are not going in the right direction. You must follow the law of the universe, and be happy. Do not worry about what is happening, but accept it and act toward a positive trend if it can be done, but never stay without acting when the bad situation, the non lucky time frame is falling on you, this is definitivly a law of the universe, and it will happen again and again, you got to do something, but the thing that will put you on the right track… You must understand that; be careful, the universe can’ t be redirected, rather you should follow the same direction, and profit from the tremendous flow of vital energy coming from the six directions.

Good force are there, but you have to avoid the bad forces. Although the positive forces are stronger, it is very easy to fall in the wrong wave, and quite difficult to focus and stay on the right way. So how can you be positive all the time, you think: nobody can do that. No, a lot of people do it, what is the difference between them? Two kinds of people: The sleeping, and the awake. It is not the real sleep here, you should understand what the sleeper is: in fact, he is awake like everybody, so why is he a sleeper? Just look around you, and try to find out: is that man awake or he is a sleeper? Do that exercise, and you will be astonished with the results, you will be able to feel people, to feel the energy, like you feel the wind touch on your skin.

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Ideas For Getting Through A Lonely Patch

Saturday, March 20th, 2010 at 12:19 pm  
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It can be hard to keep a positive attitude sometimes, especially when you are on your own. This can be a good time to think about what you really want to do. Rather than feel lonely, you can use the time to good advantage by investing in yourself.

One thing that has been found to be great for improving the mood is exercise. There are many workout goals you may have such as losing weight, gaining muscle or being more flexible. No matter what yours are, you can benefit from having a personal trainer.

Trainers keep you working out no matter how much you want to quit. The appointments also make you have to get up and out of the house. They are great for getting you going each morning. You also have the opportunity to meet new people who are interested in at least one thing you are interested in.

Think about what other interests you have that you have not really pursued. There are probably a whole host of things that you never seemed to have time for before. Here is your chance to start checking things off that list.

If gardening is one of your loves, get yourself a new gardening book. No matter how much you may already know about the subject, there is sure to be someone who has some tips for you. Or try a book on a style of gardening that you have never tried before.

Growing herbs is a nice specialty niche of gardening. You can choose to grow some medicinal herbs and learn about herbalism at the same time. Or maybe you would prefer growing herbs for cooking. Herbs from your garden will add something special to your meals that you cannot get from spices that come in jars.

Cooking can be a very satisfying activity, especially if you share the results. Another option for expanding your knowledge is to invest in private cooking classes. You can go at your own pace and learn the type of cuisine that really interests you. In keeping with your fitness goals, you can have your lessons geared towards food that is as good for you as it is good tasting.

Once you are confident enough to share the results, have your workout friends come over for dinner. When the evening is done, those feelings of depression that started it all will be a distant memory. And the main thing that will have changed is your new positive attitude.


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Find Out How Happiness Can Prosper In Your World

Thursday, March 18th, 2010 at 2:23 am  
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Happiness is an expression of a more attainable goal. That goal is contentment. If you are content with your life there is a fine chance that you would describe yourself as happy.

Downsizing your life in some ways can create portals to new opportunities that increase your feelings of delight. Renting an apartment or condo instead of a house could mean spending less money each month. No outside maintenance means more free time.

Maybe you can show off your bad golf swing on the public course rather than the exclusive club. You and a friend can trade your personal trainer for a complete at home workout system. Share the cost and the savings.

Consider the couple that was on the verge of adding a brand new room to their home for their impending baby. They decided to remodel a room that was barely used to save funds.

They will tell you that decorating the room, deciding on color schemes, and painting the walls was a great. They shopped for designer baby bedding, the latest baby gadgets, and other belongings with the dollars saved from no new construction.

The experiences and fun they shared provided many happy moments. The space they fashioned for the expected child filled a need and gave both a sense of well being.

She laughs about the painting mistakes made tells how much she learned. He has become an expert on everything from cribs to ladybug baby bedding and says it with a smile.

Both will tell you that the time shared shopping and painting allowed for genuine conversations. This couple connected in ways that reminded them of when they first started out together.

The bonding they shared was a byproduct of their project. They shared everything from frustration to laughter and that strengthened their partnership and gladness in each other.

Both mentioned that talking about the baby and how it would grow and change resulted in them talking about the future. More important, they were talking about a shared future.

Looking down the shared road on their journey of life nurtured their present love and sense of emotional safety. Those are powerful emotions that fuel our personal joy and provide security in the relationship.

This project enhanced and refreshed the glee this couple already possessed. They were reminded that a trusted partner provides a high level of happiness. Everything this couple shared added as much joy to their hearts as the excitement of looking forward to the arrival of their child.


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